PEER PRESSURE
Peer pressure. When you hear it, you might go “oh no, not this topic again.” Well, at least that’s what I thought when I picked this topic out of the bunch. But I’m not talking about the same thing that you might have listened or heard about. So, peer pressure : are you the victim or the culprit~??
Let’s start from the question : what is peer pressure? In the simplest term, it is an influence on a person by other people who are about the same age. Teenagers especially.
If you are used to be bossed around, or are afraid of being alone, not confident of yourself, then, let me tell you this: you got problems. And you have to fix that because this will allow you’ve to be influenced easily. Thus, you are prone to be peer pressured and people will look at you as a toy, the puppet that everyone can play with. You will lose your dignity. Not only that, if you are drown in the darkness of peer pressure , you can lose yourself and you might never be able to get back to the surface ever. You won’t realize such loss but it is the biggest loss you will get. So please take it seriously and take care of your dignity seriously. Think about your family, your mother and father that gave up a lot for you to be a good person, protect your family’s name. If it wasn’t for anyone else, then, do it for yourself.
If you are a leader of a clique, or if your friends follow your orders without any complaint, and especially if you are the person who doesn’t like different people and wants your friends to be like you, then, watch out! Because you might be the one who put peer pressure on people.
Some might know that already. But some just don’t seem to realize that you are messing with someone’s head. You have to realize that it is selfish to force people to be someone they are not. If you can’t accept someone who they really are, then , don’t expect that person to like you either. Would you like it if people want you to be like them? Especially something you are against of ? I don’t think so. However, at the same time you can be yourself without patronizing people. You will find someone who can accept who you really are and you have to accept people for who they really are too. Be cooperative. And don’t be a hypocrite. If you know that no one wants to be friends with you just because you are different, then you don’t need friends. You have to be confident. You have to be proud that you are different. You are original. You are you. And no one can take that away from you. But at the same time, don’t blame people for not accepting you. Unless your differences are inappropriate, maybe it is the way you talk, you might be too sarcastic or heartless. Or maybe you just talk too much. And those are the things that you shouldn’t be proud of. So look into yourself and try to change, for the better only. As a Wiseman said once: do goodness for goodness sake.
You have to know that, if you are weak, and easily influenced, there is not much you can do in your life. You would trust people too easily and people can fool you a lot of time. People won’t have respect for you, people will look down on you. People will even ignore you. Whether or not you are peer pressured, you will feel some sort of emptiness in you because you can’t be who you are and in some cases, suicide is committed. This is dangerous and you should really open your eyes and see, able to differentiate between right and wrong.
You also have to know that, if you are too strong, too demanding, too hardheaded, you can ruin your and someone else’s life. You have to know what you are doing. You have to think about the consequences afterwards. If you know one person’s policy or motto don’t take that away from them, especially if it were the right ones. You have to be considerate and you have to think about others too. You cant just walk in someone life and expose outrageous information to them in order for them to change. That is so rude and selfish. And don’t expect people to be just like you so don’t blame people when they mock you one day. Blame yourself for what you did. That is why you have to think before you act. Don’t look so high on yourself. Don’t be too arrogant just because you might have more advantages than others. You are making a fool of yourself.
What I’m trying to say is, peer pressure, either you are the victim or culprit , it is no good for both sides. So change while you still can.
by:
Sofia Khairuddin
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